I love having conversations online. Not too long ago someone asked, "Why are people so judgmental and hypocritical? Why can't they be more human?" This question is quite a paradox for me. I'm not trying to badmouth anyone or generalize, but the question itself is very general so I will keep that theme. We all know there are exceptions to every rule...but no person is perfect so maybe everyone will fit somehow into my explanation.
In my lifetime I have learned that people brush things off until it affects them. They will befriend you and then tell others bad things behind your back. They lie for attention, possessions, and control. They yes you and tell you what they think you want to hear. They insult, prod, give guilt trips, and pressure you to get you to do what they want. They shun, harass, and preach to those outside of their social group. They find differences and divide themselves for any reason. They are quick to get offended but also quick to offend. They like to be right and if their belief is strong they will explain away any contradiction to it. They can be opinionated, self righteous, and stubborn. They are fair for everyone else and biased toward themselves. Of course everyone does these things at a different level depending on how our personality developed. We treat others a certain way depending on the situation in which we connect. Whatever need we are craving determines our actions and emotions during this interaction. Are we looking for achievement, power, or intimacy? Since no person is perfect, chances are we all lack something and crave it either consciously or subconsciously. These things play a key role in how we interact, influence, and manipulate others. These are all common things that people do...basically what I'm saying is that being hypocritical and judgmental ARE human traits.
1 comments:
Tnx Cocos, nice one!
We all have the feeling of lacking something indeed. We'll assume we're lacking love, friends, respect, value, etc and try to prove ourselves wrong by overcompensating for it. We'll try to prove that we have lot of love, friends, respect, value, etc and of course fail miserably
Then we indeed have to blaim someone for that (see http://www.patrickbrinksma.nl/2010/06/stop-bashing-your-ego/ for a great post on that)
It's a circle. If we were to blame ourselves, we would soon find out that it's all a hallucination. We're not not loved or alone, we're just making that up. If we accept that we're just making that up, everything will fade away and the whole circus will come to a full stop
I wish more people would see that - although numbers are growing!
Love,
Martijn
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